Even Japanese, everyone has different background or way of thinking.
And I'm sure you won't like the boyfriend who is just trying to know Japanese culture from you.

One of my friends told me before, 'Japanese girls are always coming to me, but they just want free English lessons.'

So my point is, boyfriend/even just a friend, they are not the tool.

I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings, but I think you're missing the point.
And actually, this is the tip for your question from me.

good luck!